I posted yesterday about our own beliefs and how they can infringe on our perceived freedom. I wanted to add something about some of the ways very strong beliefs can develop.
Many or possibly all of our decisions in life are emotional, after we’ve made a decision, we then use logic and reasons to back up our original emotional decision so we can convince ourselves that it is right.
The emotional decision is based on a set of beliefs we have picked up throughout our life about what is right and what is wrong. These are not objective facts. We will do anything to back up what we think is right, and chastise anything or anyone who we think is wrong (according to our beliefs).
Many or most of our subconscious beliefs are picked up when we are very young, often before the age of 5. At this time, we were processing things from a standpoint of believing that every adult is right / perfect / knows best. We do not realise that the reason they shouted when we took a long time to get out of the house was because they’d had a terrible day and was not necessarily because we were doing something wrong, that we were not good enough or that taking a long time doing something is an extremely bad thing to do- but these are examples of the types of beliefs we would have then taken on.
Fast forward to today and the now adult may be triggered every time someone is late to meet them, or takes a long time to finish something – backing up their belief of what is right and what is wrong. Emotional reactions to situations like these are nearly always inner child trauma and reinforcement of the beliefs we learnt at that time. These beliefs will also influence us in how we act as well as react.
Our subconscious beliefs dictate much of how we interact with the world. Freeing ourselves from the beliefs that no longer serve us can totally transform how we live and our connections to everyone around us. We are taken back to our real, authentic self without all the baggage that we have collected or has been passed onto us.
When I am working with someone in a session, I use a variety of tools to recognise, process and heal these beliefs . However, this is work we can also do on ourselves – the first step is to recognise the triggers, see the beliefs coming up when we have strong emotional reactions. Observe the emotional reaction and realise where it is coming from, simply observing it and knowing that this is probably from unconscious beliefs and not an objective reaction to true reality can often bring about profound healing. As we peel back the layers and get deeper and deeper towards our true self we discover true freedom.
There is also freedom is recognising other people’s triggers – we can observe objectively when someone is reacting to us in an emotional way, know that it is being triggered by an unconscious belief and therefore not take it personally.
Freedom can be found in our knowledge, then our reflection and our action.